With all of this being said, there are ways to help you make decisions if you are anything like myself!
Here are three that are my general "go-to's":
1. Talk about it
Talking to a trusted friend or family member or therapist can really help you view your predicament from new angles. Having third-party opinions, whether slightly biased or not, can still encourage you to look at your situation from perspectives you might not have considered prior to their advice. The more you talk about something, you are literally forcing yourself to generate new ideas about the matter - nobody's about to repeat the same thing over + over again! Just be careful not to venture into "unhealthy rumination" territory; although many people associate rumination with obsessive thinking, it can also result in obsessive discussing! There are so many beautiful things in the world with which you can fill your mind - I recommend this :p !
2. Write about it
Blogging, for me, is a great way to figure out how I'm really feeling about an issue, even more so than maybe I would if I hadn't written an entire post on the matter at hand, whatever it may be. If you do not write a blog, then I suggest buying a journal... or three! Hey, honestly, I feel creatively stuck sometimes when I have to write in the same journal or notebook day after day - the different colors and covers and textures and everything combined inspire me in different ways. You can bet that right now I have about four different journals that I write in whenever the inspiration strikes me to use any particular one. Journaling is great if you are concerned and preoccupied with external judgment from others who may read your thoughts + feelings and leave comments on them. Personally, something I wish I didn't do, but I have found that it's just a major element of human nature, is to seek validation of my own personal choices from others. This is part of the reason why I find blogging rewarding: what I write is able to resonate with people, and hopefully my words can help + inspire others. Although the subjects written about in journaling are highly personal, and I'd argue even more so for me than blogging topics usually are, with a blog you have the ability to change other people's lives for the better! Unless you publish your journals one day... hehehe! #Ideas
3. Think about it
Letting yourself consider the decision options that you can select from without passing judgment upon yourself for which one, deep down, you really think you want to make is a very important step in actually making a decision! Don't self-loathe if you find yourself leaning more towards on of the options that others have guided you against, either. Sometimes, oddly enough, even the people who know you best, just --for whatever reason-- don't know what is best for you, even if they have done so in the past + claim to do so, presently. The thing about being humans is that we are constantly in a state of evolving + growing + changing - and this is all such a beautiful thing. Each and every day shapes + forms us into a daily brand-new version of ourselves. We are never the same person two days in a row -- really think about that for a second! It is okay to change your mind a million and one times, despite what anyone says. We do not owe anybody a constant state of mind - because this is how one's mind grows stagnant. HOWEVER!!! there is at least one exception to this highly general rule, and what comes to mind is romance! I'd say that we owe romantic partners unwavering affection + love, wouldn't you!?
|One of the ways to make decisions is to grab some (decaf!) coffee, a notebook/journal, a pen, + some alone time!|
How do you go about making difficult decisions?